"Wife -sharing" haunts Indian villages as girls decline – Yahoo!

“Wife -sharing” haunts Indian villages as girls decline – Yahoo!
By Nita Bhalla
BAGHPAT, India ( TrustLaw) – When Munni arrived in this fertile, sugarcane – growing
region of north India as a young bride years ago, little did she imagine she would be forced
into having sex and bearing children with her husband’s two brothers who had failed to find
“My husband and his parents said I had to share myself with his brot hers,” said the woman in
her mid- 40s, dressed in a yellow sari, sitting in a village community centre in Baghpat distric t
in Uttar Pradesh.
“They took me whenever they wanted — day or night. When I resisted, they beat me with
anything at hand,” said Munni, who had managed to leave her home after three months only
on the pretext of visiting a doctor.
“Sometimes they threw me out and made me sleep outside or they poured kerosene over me
and burned me.”
Such cases are rarely reported to police because women i n these communities are seldom
allowed outside the home unaccompanied, and the crimes carry deep stigma for the victims.
So there may be many more women like Munni in the mud- hut villages of the area.
Munni, who has three sons from her husband and his brothers, has not filed a police
complaint either.
Social workers say decades of aborting female babies in a deeply patriarchal culture has led
to a decline in the population of women in some parts of India, like Baghpat , and in turn has
resulted in rising inc idents of rape, human trafficking and the emergence of “wife- sharing”
amongst brothers.
Aid workers say the practice of female foeticide has flourished among several communities
across the country because of a traditional preference for sons, who are seen as old – age
“We are already seeing the terrible impacts of falling numbers of females in some
communities,” says Bhagyashri Dengle, executive director of children’s charity Plan India.
“We have to take this as a warning sign and we have to do some thing about it or we’ll have a
situation where women will constantly be at risk of kidnap, rape and much, much worse.”
Just two hours drive from New Delhi, with its gleaming office towers and swanky malls,
where girls clad in jeans ride motor bikes and women occupy senior positions in multi -nationals, the mud- and- brick villages of Baghpat appear a world apart.
Here, women veil themselves in the presence of men, are confined to the compounds of their
houses as child bearers and home makers, and are forbidden from venturing out
Village men farm the lush sugarcane plantations or sit idle on charpoys, or traditional rope
beds, under the shade of trees in white cotton tunics, drinking tea, some smoking hookah
pipes while lamenting the lack of brides for their sons and brothers.
The figures are telling.
According to India’s 2011 census, there are only 858 women to every 1,000 men in Baghpat
district, compared to the national sex ratio of 940.
Child sex ratios in Baghpat are even more skewed and on the decline with 837 girls in 2011
compared to 850 in 2001 — a trend mirrored across districts in states such as Haryana,
Punjab, Rajasthan and Gujarat.
“In every village, there are at least five or six bachelors who can’t find a wife. In some, there
are up to three or four unmarried men in one family. It’s a serious problem,” says Shri Chand,
75, a retired police constable.
“Everything is hush, hush. No one openly admits it, but we all know what is going on. Some
families buy brides from other parts of the country, while others have one daughter – in – law
living with many unwedded brothers.”
Women from other regions such as Jharkhand and West Bengal speak of how their poor
families were paid sums of as little as 15,000 rupees ($300) by middle – men and brought here
to wed into a different culture, language and way of life.
“It was hard at first, there was so much to learn and I didn’t understand anything. I thought I
was here to play,” said Sabita Singh, 25, who was brought from a village in West Bengal at
the age of 14 to marry her husband, 19 years her elder.
“I’ve got used to it,” she says holding her third child in her lap. “I miss my freedom.”
Such exploitation of women is illegal in India, but many of these crimes are gradually
becoming acce ptable among such close- knit communities because the victims are afraid to
speak out and neighbours unwilling to interfere.
Some villagers say the practice of brothers sharing a wife has benefits, such as the avoidance
of division of family land and other assets amongst heirs.
Others add the shortage of women has, in fact, freed some poor families with daughters from
demands for substantial dowries by grooms’ families.
Social activists say nothing positive can be derived from the increased exploitation of
women, recounting cases in the area of young school girls being raped or abducted and
auctioned off in public.
Despite laws making pre- natal gender tests illegal, India’s 2011 census indi cated that efforts
to curb female foeticide have been futile.
While India’s overall female- to- male ratio marginally improved since the last census in 2001,
fewer girls were born than boys and the number of girls under six years old plummeted for
the fifth decade running.
A May study in the British medical journal Lancet found that up to 12 million Indian girls
were aborted over the last three decades — resulting in a skewed child sex ratio of 914 girls to
every 1,000 boys in 2011 compared with 962 in 1981.
Sons, in traditionally male- dominated regions, are viewed as assets — breadwinners who will
take care of the family, continue the family name, and perform the last rites of the parents, an
important ritual in many faiths.
Daughters are seen as a liability, for whom families have to pay substantial wedding dowries.
Protecting their chastity is a major concern as instances of pre – marital sex are seen to bring
shame and dishonour on families.
Women’s rights activists say breaking down these deep- rooted, age – old beliefs is a major
“The real solution is to empower girls and women in every way possible,” says Neelam
Singh, head of Vatsalya, an NGO working on children’s and women’s issues.
“We need to provide them with access to education, healthcare a nd opportunities which will
help them make decisions for themselves and stand up to those who seek to abuse or exploit
(TrustLaw is a global news service on women’s rights and good governance run by Thomson
Reuters Foundation. For more information see http://www.trust.org/trustlaw)
(Editing by Sugita Katyal)




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