Príbeh Indky Mitu, ktorá pred súd postavila muža aj svokru

Príbeh Indky Mitu, ktorá pred súd postavila muža aj svokru

Zdroj: EMMA/Katarína Mannino07. júl 2013, 09:00

Foto: Profimedia.skMitu je prvá Indka, ktorá postavila pred súd svojho muža a svokru.
 

Mitu je prvá Indka, ktorá nabrala odvahu a postavila pred súd svojho muža a svokru. Chceli zniesť so sveta ich dcéry, dievčatá sú totiž v Indii na odstrel.

India je jednou z najnebezpečnejších krajín sveta pre dievčatá. Vraždia ich, znásilňujú alebo im vôbec nedovolia narodiť sa.

Mitu Khurana však nedokázala mlčať. Ako prvá indická žena verejne obvinila svojho muža, nemocnicu a lekárov z pokusu o vraždu jej nenarodených detí. Žiadalo si to poriadnu odvahu, pretože tým riskuje svoj život.

Nedobrovoľný ultrazvuk

Mitu mala dvadsaťsedem a za sebou šestnásty týždeň tehotenstva, keď jej manžel priniesol chutný koláč. Mitu ho zjedla, no okamžite jej prišlo nevoľno. Manžel so svokrou úmyselne priniesli koláč s vajcami! Vedeli, že mladá žena je na ne alergická. Mitu prosila o svoje lieky, no nikto sa nesnažil jej ich podať.

Namiesto toho ju zaviezli do nemocnice a miestnemu lekárovi podstrčili pekný balík bankoviek. Ten už vedel, čo má robiť, a aj Mitu tušila, kam ju vezú. Na ultrazvuk. Bránila sa, no napchali ju utišujúcimi liekmi. Manžel so svokrou už dlhšie snovali plán, ako sa najrýchlejšie dozvedieť pohlavie dieťaťa, a teraz konečne prišla šanca. Správa bola pre nich krutá. Dvojičky, dievčatká. A začal sa tvrdý boj.

Zbav sa dievky, ušetríš!

Moderné indické veľkomestá sa rozmáhajú a na každom kroku vidieť pokrok. Pre dievčatá tam však stále platia pravidlá ako zo stredoveku. Odkedy v Indii zaviedli pred dvadsiatimi rokmi ultrazvuk, rodiny chcú poznať pohlavie dieťaťa čo najskôr. Za tých dvadsať rokov ultrazvuk zabránil dvanástim miliónom dievčatiek, aby sa vôbec mohli narodiť. Každý rodič túži vychovávať chlapca. Dievčatá totiž znamenajú výdavky, ktoré pripravujú rodinu o pohodlie.

Prerušenie tehotenstva z dôvodu „nesprávneho“ pohlavia plodu je oficiálne zakázané a od roku 1996 dokonca v krajine platí zákaz informovať rodičku o tom, či bude mať chlapca alebo dievča, no tento zákaz v skorumpovanej Indii nič neznamená. Najmä súkromné kliniky lákajú klientov na reklamný slogan: „Zaplať dnes tisíc rupií a ušetri neskôr stotisíc!“ Dievčatá totiž potrebujú pri vydaji veno, a to nie je maličkosť. „Vychovať dcéru je ako polievať susedovu záhradu,“ vraví indické príslovie.

Dievčat sa zbavujú najmä majetnejšie rodiny, ktoré si môžu ultrazvuk dovoliť. V Indii však hrozia dievčatám a ženám aj iné nebezpečenstvá. Každú hodinu zomrie jedna žena násilnou smrťou len preto, že si rodina ženícha brúsila zuby na jej veno. Každých osemnásť hodín je jedna žena znásilnená v hlavnom meste Dillí. Tak, ako 16. decembra minulého roku 23-ročná študentka, ktorá po znásilnení šiestimi mužmi o pár dní na následky zomrela. Takéto činy sa väčšinou zamlčujú a ak ich aj nejaká žena ohlási, proces sa ťahá roky.

Smrť mladej študentky však spustil vlnu protestov. Ženy vyšli do ulíc a nezľakli sa ani vodných diel a slzotvorného plynu. Tisícky ľudí tiahli na prezidentský palác a držali transparenty s nápismi: Táto krajina nie je pre ženy! Som len telo, ktoré zneužijú?! Prestaňte konečne zabíjať naše nenarodené dcéry!

Skúsili ju vyhladovať

Kedysi považovala Mitu svojho manžela za poctivého muža. Nie je to žiadny chudák, naopak, pracuje ako ortopéd a ľudia si ho vážia. Aj ona si ho vážila, dokonca boli kolegovia, veď sama pracovala ako detská lekárka. Ich sobáš v novembri 2004 bol, ako zvyk káže, rodinami vopred dohodnutý. Jeho rodina požadovala ako veno šperky, novú Hondu a byt.

Mitu sa presťahovala k rodine manžela. Myslela, že je všetko v poriadku, boli predsa dvaja moderní ľudia. Manžel jej prácu akceptoval a ju ako ženu rešpektoval. Ibaže potom otehotnela. Svokra žiadala smrť svojich nenarodených vnučiek „alebo aspoň jednej“. Mladú tehotnú ženu zavreli svokrovci v dome a nedávali jej jesť. „Možno ich takto potratíš,“ povedali jej a ešte sa neveste vyhrážali, že ak sa náhodou deti narodia, aj tak ich utopia.

Mitin muž zrazu žiadal test otcovstva. Neustále sa hádali a uprostred jednej hádky ju zhodil zo schodov. Mala rany na celom tele, krvácala, a tak zúfalá prosila o pomoc svojho otca. „Radšej sa zabijem, ako by som mala zavraždiť svoje dcérky!“ plakala otcovi do telefónu. Ten ju hneď prichýlil a staral sa o ňu, pokým Mitu v siedmom mesiaci porodila. Našťastie, dievčatká boli zdravé.

Posledná šanca a koniec

Keď mali deti štyri mesiace, Mitu sa rozhodla zachrániť svoje manželstvo. Dúfala, že muž zmení názor, keď bábätká uvidí. Tu už nešlo len o lásku ich dvoch, šlo o budúcnosť detí a o to, aby mali otca. Svokre sa ospravedlnila a dala jej všetky svoje šperky. „Ale v tom dome už pre mňa a deti nebolo lásky ani rešpektu. Bála som sa o náš život,“ hovorí Mitu.

Jedného dňa sa svokra pokúsila jedno z detí hodiť zo schodov, kým sedelo v detskej sedačke. Vraj to bola nehoda. Mitu zachytila dievčatko v poslednej sekunde, no napriek tej strašnej udalosti ostala v dome svojho muža dlhé dva roky. Boli plné strachu a celý čas dúfala, že manžel a svokra jej dcéry konečne prijmú do rodiny. Zbytočne. V marci 2008 ju manžel vyhodil uprostred noci aj s deťmi z domu a podal žiadosť o rozvod. Kričal, že sa znova ožení a bude mať synov.

pribeh

Odišla opäť k rodičom a rozhodla sa, že už dlhšie mlčať nebude. Zažalovala manžela, nemocnicu a lekára, ktorý ju prinútil na ultrazvuk. Policajný komisár, ktorý žalobu prijímal, jej vraj odvetil: „Kde je tvoj problém? Jednoducho poroď mužovi syna a hotovo.“ Neskôr volal Mitinej matke a varoval ju. Vraj ženy ako Mitu, ktoré robia na polícii problémy, môže pokojne niekto za rohom znásilniť. Tak nech si dá pozor. Jedna sudkyňa sa Mite vyhrážala, že udelí otcovi detí právo na ich navštevovanie, iný sudca navrhol vyrovnanie 150-tisíc eur, ak žalobu stiahne.

Stratila prácu, tety, strýkovia, sesternice sa jej vyhýbali, lebo uvalila na rodinu dovtedy neslýchanú hanbu. Žena si vraj má muža udržať, má poslúchať, a nie vyťahovať súkromné problémy na verejnosť.„Dodnes sa mnohí ku mne správajú, akoby som neexistovala.“

Ani Oprah nestačí

Dnes má Mitu Khurana tridsaťpäť rokov a je prvou Indkou, ktorá sa odvážila postaviť pred súd všetkých zodpovedných. Chce, aby sa konečne niečo zmenilo. Aby sa svet dozvedel, že v Indii sa ako na bežiacom páse vraždia dievčatká. Založila blog o svojom príbehu, obrátila sa na rôzne organizácie, rozdávala rozhovory, Op
rah Winfrey za ňou dokonca prišla domov, no žiadne väčšie zmeny sa v krajine neudiali. Oficiálne ju nepodporuje žiadna organizácia, len niekoľko žien z niekoľkých hnutí.

Našťastie, konečne sa v Indii podarilo nájsť právnickú kanceláriu, ktorá Mitu zastupuje v procese voči jej manželovi a ostatným bezplatne. Na súd musí prísť tri- až štyrikrát do mesiaca a procesy ako tento sa ťahajú desať aj viac rokov. Mitu nechce peniaze, žiada, aby všetci, ktorí jej a jej deťom chceli ublížiť, skončili za mrežami. Možno aj demonštrácie po smrti študentky konečne niečo zmenia.

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Foto: Archív

Nesmie sa zas oženiť!

Dcérky dnes majú sedem rokov. Žijú napriek tomu, že sa ich vlastný otec aj babička zo všetkých síl snažili, aby nikdy neprišli na svet. Mitu s nimi býva v rodičovskom dome v zámožnej štvrti severozápadnej časti Dillí. Jej otec je tiež lekár a svoju dcéru aj vnučky podporuje. Mitu si konečne našla prácu v administratíve jednej nemocnice a odmieta sa nechať rozviesť. Ona sama sa už nikdy nechce vydať a myslí si, že ani jej muž by už nemal dostať druhú šancu. A hoci oficiálne nie sú rozvedení, jej manžel si už dal v novinách inzerát pre vydajachtivé nevesty.

„Lenže, čo ak budú znova čakať dievča? Zbaví sa ženy tak, ako sa zbavil mňa, a potom ďalšej a ďalšej? Tú voľnosť mu nedám,“ hovorí odhodlane Mitu, no vie, že ju ešte čaká dlhá cesta. Najnovšie jej hrozí, že sa manželovi podarí získať právo na to, aby sa stretával s dvojičkami bez dozoru matky. Celý svoj príbeh a všetky dokumenty z pojednávaní zverejnila na internete (www.savedaughters19. wordpress.com). „Nech niekto pokračuje v mojom boji, ak ma nakoniec zabijú.“

Source-http://www.pluska.sk/zena/pribehy/pribeh-indky-mitu-ktora-pred-sud-postavila-muza-aj-svokru.html

English Translation 

Story of Indian girls Mitu, who stood before the court  , man and her mother in law

Mitu is the first Indian woman who took courage and stood in front of court her husband and her mother in law. They wanted the world to bear with their daughters, girls are in fact in India for shooting.

India is one of the most dangerous countries in the world for girls. Murder them, rape them or even not allow to be born.

Mitu Khurana, however, could not remain silent. As the first Indian woman publicly accused her husband, hospitals and doctors of the attempted murder of her unborn children. Called for this a hefty courage, because it risks her life.

involuntary ultrasound

Mitu was twenty-seven and behind the sixteenth week of pregnancy, when her husband brought a tasty cake. Mitu ate it, but it came immediately nauseous. Husband with mother in law deliberately brought a cake with eggs! They knew that the young woman is allergic to them. Mitu asked about their medication, but nobody did not try it they bring.

Instead, it chariot to the hospital and local doctors planted a nice bundle of banknotes. He already knew what to do, and also Mitu she had suspected where to heads it tower. On ultrasound. Be She fought, but stuffed her utišujúcimi drugs. Husband with mother in law no longer the warping reel plan as quickly as possible to learn the baby’s sex, and now the chance has finally come. The report was cruel to them. Twins girls. And began to struggle hard.

Get rid of whores, you save!

Modern Indian cities are on the increase and every step to see progress. For girls there are still rules that apply to the Middle Ages. Since in India introduced decades ago ultrasound, families want to know the sex of the baby as soon as possible. For those twenty years ultrasound prevented the twelve million little girls to ever to be born. Every parent desires to to bring up the boy. Girls does mean spending that prepare family of comfort.

Abortion due to “wrong” sex of the fetus is officially banned since 1996, and even in the country is forbidden to inform the woman in labor, whether it be a boy or a girl, but this prohibition does not corrupt India. Especially private clinics attract clients on advertising slogan: “Pay thousand rupees now and save yourself hundreds of thousands later!” Girls because they need when collecting dowry, and this is not a small thing. “Bring up a daughter is like watering the neighbor’s garden,” says Indian proverb.

Girls shedding their particular wealthy families who can afford an ultrasound. In India, however, threaten girls and women and other dangers. Every hour a woman dies a violent death only because the family groom Brusila his teeth for her dowry. Every eighteen hours a woman is raped in the capital city Delhi. As 16 December last year, 23-year-old student, who after six men raped a few days as a result died. Such acts are usually keeps mum and even if they announce any woman, the process pulls the years.

The death of a young student, however, set off a wave of protests. Women took to the streets and are not afraid to dams and tear gas. Thousands of people journeyed to the Presidential Palace and held banners reading: No Country for Women! I’m just a body that abuse?! Finally stop killing our unborn daughter!

Try her to starve

Once regarded Mitu her husband for an honest man. Not is any poor man, on the contrary, works as orthopedic and people respect him. Although she weighed him, even associates were, after all, herself worked as a pediatrician. Their marriage was in November 2004, as custom dictates, the families agreed in advance. His family demanded as a dowry jewelry, new Honda and flat.

Mitu moved to the husband’s family. I thought that everything is in order, were still two modern people. Her husband accepted a job and respected her as a woman. Except that then became pregnant. Mother in law called for the death of their unborn granddaughters “or at least one”. Young pregnant woman closed the in the house of-laws and did not give her to eat. “Maybe they like abortion,” said her daughter-and still are threatened that if they happen to children born, as well as their utopia.

Mitin man suddenly demanded a paternity test. We are constantly arguing and quarreling amid one threw her down the stairs. She had sores all over the body, bleeding, and so desperate pleading for help his father. “I’d rather kill myself than I should kill my daughter,” cried my father on the phone. That it now prichýlil and cared for her until the seventh month Mitu bore. Fortunately, the girls were healthy.

Last chance and end

When the children had four months Mitu decided to save their marriage. She hoped that the man changes his mind when they see babies. Here, it was not just love them two, it was the future of children and to have a father. Mother in law apologized and gave her all my jewelry. “But in that house already for me and the children could not love or respect. I was worried about our lives, “says Mitu.

One day mother in law tried to throw one of the children down the stairs, as they sat in a child seat. Apparently it was an accident. Mitu girl caught at the last second, but despite the terrible events remained in the house of her husband two years long. They were full of fear and all the time she hoped her husband and daughter finally adopted into the family-in-law. Unnecessarily. In March 2008, her husband threw the middle of the night with their children out of the house and filed for divorce. He shouted that remarried and will have sons.

She went back to her parents and decided that will no longer be silent. Sued her husband, a hospital and a doctor who forced her to ultrasound. Police Commissioner, who take the action, it supposedly said: “Where is yo
ur problem? Simply childbirth husband and son go. “Later Mitin mother called and warned her. Apparently women as Mitu, which makes the police problems can feel someone around the corner rape. So let them be careful. One judge was Mite threatened to grant the right to my father children attending them, another judge proposed settlement of 150 thousand euros, if the application is withdrawn.

She lost a job, aunts, uncles, cousins ​​to avoid it, because the family previously imposed unprecedented shame. A woman supposedly a man to maintain, has to obey, and not flaunting private problems to the public. “To this day, many treat me like I’m there.”

Not even Oprah is not enough

Today Mitu Khurana thirty-five years and is the first Indian who dared to bring to justice all those responsible. She wants to finally something has changed. The world to know that India is like hotcakes murdering girls. Established a blog about your story, she turned to the various organizations, handing out interviews Oprah Winfrey for her even got home, but no major changes have happened in the country. Officially her is not supported by any organization, only a few women from several movements.

Fortunately, finally in India have found a lawyer’s office, which represents Mitu in the process against her husband and others free of charge. The court must come three to four times a month and processes as this will being pulled ten years or more. Mitu not want money, asks everyone who wanted her and her children to hurt, ended up behind bars. Maybe even the death of student demonstrations finally make a difference.

Must not be married again!

Daughters now have seven years. Live despite their own father and grandmother tried their best to ever come into the world. Mitu them lives in his parents’ home in affluent neighborhood northwest of Delhi. Her father is also a doctor and his daughter and granddaughter supports. Mitu finally found a job in the administration of one hospital and refuses to let the divorce. She never wants to get married and thinks that even her husband would not have given a second chance. 

“But what if the girl again wait? Get rid of the women as they got rid of me, and then another and another? I will not give him the freedom, “he says firmly Mitu, but knows that her has a long way. Latest threatened her that her husband was able to get right in order to meet with twins unattended child. His whole story and all of hearing documents published on the Internet (www.savedaughters19. WordPress.com). “Let someone goes in my fight, if I end up being killed.”

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Author: savedaughters19

This is a coverage of my struggles to save my daughters.I am thank full to my parents not only for Not killing me ,but also helping me save my daughters... My dream- A big shelter house for women who want to give birth to their daughters and raise them up with dignity and self respect , but have to fight their own families to do so. Will have medical facilities and facilities for legal aid. will have training centers for vocational courses so that they can stand up on their own two feet and stop the dependency on their husbands for finances, A child care center run and managed by the inmates, A kitchen and a vegetable farm run and managed by the inmates. At present only a dream.... But with grace of God will become a reality. God will show the way and means to achieve the dream.

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