Woman Saves Her Twins From India’s Feticide
In February of 2005, Dr. Mitu Khurana discovered she was pregnant with twins. Immediately her mother-in-law demanded that she undergo tests to discover whether the babies were boys or girls. Mitu refused. She knew she would love her children no matter what sex they were. She also knew that if it was discovered that they were girls, her husband and in-laws would relentlessly pressure her to abort.
Even though having an ultrasound to discover the sex of the baby with the intent of aborting if it is a girl is illegal, the practice remains rampant in India. It is estimated that nearly 50,000 girls are aborted every month. It is difficult to know how many baby girls are also abandoned or murdered after they are born. As a result, Indian men now outnumber women by nearly 40 million!
Why in the world would a nation do such a thing to itself? The answer is money. Indian tradition demands that the parents of a daughter pay a huge dowry to get her married. Many families feel they cannot pay the steep price which is expected. Therefore, they abort their girl babies in hopes of a son.
Mitu Khurana was one woman who fought back. When she refused to submit to the testing to determine the gender of her babies, her family brought down such pressure upon her that it almost amounted to torture. They denied her food and water in their attempt to break down her will.
Finally one night her husband served her a cake made with eggs, to which she is extremely allergic. Her reaction was so severe that Mitu had to be rushed to the hospital. While there, her in-laws persuaded a doctor to test for the sex of the babies. To their great dismay, both were girls.
The pressure to abort her daughters became intense. If not both, then at least one had to go. Or, if not abortion, then she should give them away for adoption. When Mitu stood her ground, her husband demanded that she take a paternity test, refusing to believe that he could be the father of twin daughters. Finally, in a fit of rage, he through her out of the house and she returned to her parents.
In August of 2005, Mitu gave birth two months prematurely. In an attempt to save her marriage, she returned to her husband’s home. After four months of being ignored and disdained, she witnessed her mother-in-law push one of the babies down the stairs. In fear for their lives, she fled.
In April of 2008, one month after her husband demanded a divorce so he could “remarry and have sons,” Mitu tried to seek justice through the law. After all, in all of this debacle, countless laws had been broken. Unfortunately, in India, most of the officials also believe that having girls is a bad thing and were in sympathy with the family. At one point she was told to “reconcile with her husband,” and that she could “get pregnant again and fulfill the wish of her husband for a son.”
Mitu continues to do battle in the courts, but so far she is the only one who has paid a big price. “Every authority, be it the police, the judiciary, or the hospital where I was working, are trying to force me to withdraw my cases. It was due to this harassment and certain threats that I had to leave my job recently.” However, she remains determined, knowing that her fight for her daughters, as well as other Indian girls is well worth it. In fact, the very future of her nation is at stake.
Besides the huge tragedy of the death of so many girls, born and unborn, India is now facing a severe shortage of women for Indian men to marry. The country is well aware of the dilemma, but, so far, it has not brought about any change. Families know that something has to happen, but refuse to be the ones to sacrifice. Let someone else have the girls and go into debt to pay the dowry.
For me, the thought of this whole travesty is horrifying to consider. It is almost impossible to diagnose gender until at least the 15th week of pregnancy. By then these little girls are fully formed, and the abortions would be horrifying experiences for both mother and child. I am sure there are women who comply with this generationally ingrained barbaric tradition, however, I’m also sure that many are forced to comply. As Mitu’s story shows, once a woman marries, she can become a virtual slave to her husband and in-laws.
Mitu Khurana continues with her heroic battle. Last summer her husband was able to gain visitation rights with the daughters he sought to destroy. Mitu was attempting to fight the order, fearing for the lives of her now 5-year-old daughters. I have not been able to discover if she has been successful, but I will continue to search and keep you posted.
Please pray for this courageous woman! India needs its mothers to stand up for their daughters and fight back! The abuse has spread to other nations: foreign women have been taken as sex slaves to provide Indian men with wives, adding another vile crime to India’s list of offenses against humanity.
Mitu is the first woman to file a court case against her husband and in-laws. So far the courts of Delhi have not responded with any kind of justice. Lord, please protect Mitu and her daughters and help the women of India to find the strength to follow her example and save their little girls from destruction!
Source: Erase The Need’s